I recently got done listening to the audiobook version of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. I found the information to be so uplifting and helpful that I felt it was important to share what I learned about what is called the Let Them Theory. I decided on this book because I had seen it advertised many times. I felt like I often struggle with the opinions of others and the actions of others, therefore I figured I would give it a shot. But it ended up being more than just about that. I thought that "Let Them" sounded almost too simple. But the more I listened, the more I realized how much energy we waste trying to control things that were never ours to control. So...What exactly is the "Let Them Theory"? Let them means to let other people do whatever they are going to say or do. We often get tied up in trying to control other people, their thoughts, and what people do, that it makes us miserable. We cannot control other people. We cannot control their choices, ...
When the Answer Isn’t Obvious We have all met those people who are just a walking red flag... But what about when it isn't as obvious. My previous relationship was much this way. The relationship started out great. He bought me flowers randomly, wrote me love letters and mailed them to me, and never let me question whether or not I was loved. But there was a huge problem, there were also red flags. Along with all the lovely things that he did, there was also many things that he did that were just plain wrong. He wanted all of my time. If I spent time with anyone else, I would be greeted with many texts asking when I was going to be home, that he missed me and wanted me home. I had experience with controlling relationships in the past, so I ignored the texts and told him that I would be home when I was done spending time with my friend. I had honestly never met anyone so needy in my life. I understood why he was that way though, he had been cheated...