Blooming Thoughts Blog

The Confusing Part of Missing Someone     Have you ever missed someone and immediately reminded yourself why they're no longer in your life? Sometimes we miss people but we know that we shouldn't. The truth is... it is okay to miss someone whom has done you wrong. There are good parts of the people with whom we have had negative experiences with. I have many past relationships where I knew it was right to walk away. But do I still miss them at times? Absolutely. That is a perfectly normal thing.     It can be really confusing when your heart and your head seem to disagree. We can feel like we are not supposed to miss people that we no long associate with. But it really is okay to miss those people. Missing someone doesn't automatically mean you want them back. It just means that you miss the happy parts of the times that you spend with that person. The Good Memories Don't Just Disappear     Sometimes we remember the good moments more than the painful ones a...

Everyone Looks So Happy Online     Everyone knows how easy it is to open up on social media and we feel like everyone else has their shit together. You see many positive things; engagements, vacations, new houses, babies, career announcements, perfect relationships, cute outfits, spotless homes, and smiling faces. But the reality is that we are seeing tiny, carefully selected pieces of someone's life - not everything happening behind the camera.     I am guilty of looking at others social media and being jealous of it. I am also guilty of posting mostly the positive things happening in my life. But it isn't always what we think it is. Sometimes things are actually not good. I used to post my previous relationship on social media like it was the best thing ever. But in reality, I was experiencing mental abuse and manipulation. We don't usually talk about the bad things. Social Media Is A Highlight Reel     As I said, we naturally post the good stuff. We post...

The Last Therapy Session     On Monday, I attended my final therapy session, possibly ever. It was bitter sweet. I did not think that I was ready to be done, but my therapist had been suggesting it for months. So, I squeezed in all the time I could with her. I was in therapy for about 3 years. It was a long journey. When I first started I could not see a light at the end of the tunnel and voiced that often. It wasn't a walk in the park. It was really hard. I had to take a long look at myself often and admit that maybe I was part of the problem. That alone is a really hard thing to do.     I did so much work on myself in and out of my therapy sessions. I had to relive all of my traumatic moments that landed me there in the first place. Having to tell it all caused me a lot of hardships. I had to go through nightmares, flashbacks, panic attacks. But ignoring the problem does not making it go away. We have to relive our pains in order to conquer them.  The Version ...